Message to an Ex

            This is in response to your most recent Facebook message, as well as all of the emails to which I never replied.  I thought my lack of a response was response enough, but clearly you did not see it that way.  I hope this will help.

You may be wondering why I broke up with you.  In fact, I know you are wondering because you keep asking, even though I have told you time and again.  So I have prepared a list to which you can refer in times of uncertainty:

                                                                    

1)    You were jealous of my cousin.

2)    You were jealous of my Grizzly Adams doll.

3)    You were jealous of every male human with whom I made contact of any kind.  Asking me, “Does he know you have a boyfriend?” does not score you any points.

4)   You were jealous of my cat.  She is the most important person in my life, and anyone who cannot deal with that fact has got to go.  Even when you or anyone else is visiting, I am still going to get my daily requirement of kitty snuggles, kisses, and growling.

5)   You expected me to talk to you on the phone every night, even if I had company, had homework, was tired or sick, not in the mood, or watching American Idol. 

6)   You tried to manipulate me into dying my hair.  Newsflash: I am not a redhead.  If you want to date a redhead, then date a redhead. 

7)   I did not miss you when I went to Nicaragua.  At no time during the trip did I even feel compelled to share any aspects of our relationship with the people I met there.  Then, upon my return, you tried to guilt me into having sex with you, even though I had dislocated my shoulder and was in a lot of pain.  I mean, you paid for the hotel room, so I totally owed you.

8)   I was not in love with you.  For a while I thought I was, but then it became very clear to me that I was not and needed to end our relationship.  I feel like this is all the reason I needed, yet it is the one you have disputed the most.

9)  I wanted to.  Again, all the reason I need.  I am an adult, and able to make decisions for myself with or without reason.  I do not have to explain or justify my actions.

There are other reasons, but they are irrelevant.  I do not want to hurt your feelings or humiliate you; I just want the emails, Facebook messages, and friend requests to stop.  I do not want to speak to you or be your friend.  This relationship is over.  I am sorry that you do not feel the same, but harassing me and telling me my feelings and actions are wrong and misguided do not help your case.  I realize I am not perfect and do not always make the right choices, but they are my wrong choices to make.  I do not want to rehash this every few months and feel like I am on trial for living life the way I choose and doing what I think is right.  Please leave me alone.  Thank you.